I implore you to think before you start pressuring young women and men in the community – is this what YOU want or is this what THEY want? Why is it that you’re so quick to judge women and not men? Why do we have to stoop to their level to get something accomplished? Why can’t we be better?
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This was the year where I was able to go back to my roots in Kerala, India (and not as the ‘first Malayalee Miss India Washington’), and really see the fruits of the efforts a passionate group of Malayalee-Americas were able to accomplish (The FOMAA Village), and actually meet the families of the lives we forever changed.
I write this piece as I know many first and second-generation Indian Americans leave our cultural communities and live their lives outside of these groups just fine. I envy them. Perhaps it was because of my upbringing, but not matter how many times I try to walk away – I find myself always coming back as I am a person who believes in the power of community, and it was through this community where I procured most of my talents and interests.
So, I heard a rumor that after reading this, you’re going to think twice about spreading a rumor about me, my friends, or anyone else because you know it’s far from the truth and you know its not worth any of our time.
Historically, South Asian cultures embodied a very patriarchal society. Women hardly ever took the chance to voice an outstanding opinion about anything – including their own life. Unfortunately, this mindset has carried on and into the lives of our so proclaimed “modern day South Asians.”
I’ve grown to realize when working in organizations, it’s tough for individuals like myself to stand up for ourselves and what we believe in due to certain gaps – cultural, generational, egotistical, etc.
And she learned this year to forever be a phoenix rising from the ashes of yesterday…
The fact of the matter is, you are not your accomplishments, your creations, or the sum of the various roles you play in your life – you are much more than that.
our people must make room to allow diversity in the leadership we look up to. Being bilingual is not more important than character and competency. Make space for second-generation leadership and be proud of the inter-generational community we carry.